Family members who comment on your weight

So it has happened to all of us before.

You are at a family get together or occasion where some members of your family whom you have not seen in a year or maybe more are at.

You have just bought some new clothes that you spent ages looking for online because the local shops are crap, overpriced and never have your sixe.

You know that you've put on a few pounds and this new outfit will mask it a bit better than whats in the wardrobe right now

So you arrive at the "Do" and you feel pretty good about yourself right now.

Then you bump into a distant relation who has not seen you in  a year or two.

The first fudging thing this opinionated 3rd removed muppet of a cousin has to say to you is.....

 "Oh look you have put on weight have you look at that belly"

That shit pisses me right off and all I could think about personally was
 "leg kick, right straight, spinning back-fist"

That basically means your using a walking stick for 3 months.

E hmm.., anyway that's illegal and uncalled for.

KINDA...

Remember they don't mean to be an asshole, it just comes naturally to them.

So does taking a shit as it happens..

Remember that you can lose the belly eventually my friend but they will still be an asshole by the next time you have a family do.

So don't take it personally.  If they feel better about themselves saying that to you, look at it as that you're doing them a favor, your boosting their confidence.

It's not a nice feeling at all, now you feel like that opinionated 3rd removed cousin is watching you.

So you eat like a rabbit at the family function which goes on for hours.

You say your goodbyes at the end of the night and smile at the  person who said it to you waiting for another comment that helps their ego and destroys yours.

You arrive home and sit up all night eating shit because your starving, where nobody can see you or judge your waistline.
 
All the questions filled with hurt and anger are running through your mind

"Who the hell are they anyway to say that shite to me?"

I bet they have never had a battle with their weight etc.

HERE is the KICKER<<<<<<

Do you think they are still thinking about what they said to YOU?

NOPE, they forgot the second they said it to you, unless you went with plan B "spinning backfist".

They will defo remember saying that to you and probably wont say it again, but...

it means you are reading this from a holding cell for grievous bodily harm.;)

See where the feeling of anger got you?

No where good anyway.

 Every time you allow a sentence or an act that somebody did to you in the past, you give them power to hurt you again

Even when they are not around you.

The only REASON that you became hurt is because you knew what they said to you was true.

You are IN CHARGE of what you feel, Say and do.  Dont let anyone take that away from you.

So do something about it.

Stick to your guns and you will get where you are going.


Fergal "spinning-backfist" Lawlor