Rose and Violet, two beautiful colours

My late Grandmothers...

Yes that's their first names in the subject line alright.

Two absolutely beautiful people and I miss them very dearly now that they are gone.

What can I say...

Violet

A Straight talking North Dublin woman.

She was a great character and tuff as nails.

She always gave her opinion without hesitation or request.

The kind of sentences that would make your tea come out you're  nose with shock

Even to a  complete stranger

Something like..

"Your fat" hahaha! No messing around

Serious!

She was always up for a good time and a night out, an absolute riot of a lady to be around

The life of the party was "Nanny" Violet

Rose..

This lady made you check your shit pretty fast if you complained in her company.

When Rose ever heard me complaining about my current situation.

I would be genuinely sick lads

I had  a migraine, I'm going blind with pain

In a jock..

"Nanny" Rose would snap me out of it with

The following sentence...

"Fergal Lawlor!
It's far from your arse you won't sit on it.."

Gangsta or what!?

from a little old lady no less..

In other words

If you're that bothered about your situation do something about it

Or

Dont...

Here is what I learned from these two amazing human beings

All of your semantic bullshit excuses and reason s

are Irrelevant for why you are not where you want to be right now.

Waiting for the perfect moment is stupid

There is no perfect moment, day or time.

There is only now

That's all you are in control off.

If you think you are in control of the future you're deluded

If you fail at something, do something different, or approach it from another angle.

Your current actions  contribute to how your future will go.

So concentrate on now.


Fergal "no excuses" Lawlor

Are you your own worst enemy?

Picture this if you will mo chara..

It's a Thursday night...It's more like Thursday morning now actually to be politically correct..

If you get through till closing time on Friday without punching some fucker in the throat you will have done well

You're  pissed off with the way work has gone this week so it's ok to throw a few back to calm the system

Sure you might as well have a few social beverages now rather than wait till Saturday

The temptation is too great you might as well give in and cool off with a nice cold beer or a glass of wine

Is this what you do more often than not?

Is this what is stopping you achieving your goal?

If you are not willing to sacrifice in the short term the likelihood of your ever achieving your goal is slim or none.

The term pissing against brief wind comes to mind.

So what can I do MR spoiler?
I hear you say

Don't get me wrong I like a drink and I know how easy it is on a Thursday evening to give into that treat

But if your lack of will power and moderation with food and "liquid s"
is what is stopping your progress..

Maybe you need to review your priorities

Do you really want change or are you lying to yourself

Are you  talking the talk but not  walking the walk?

Make a plan

Follow the blasted thing because guess what?

 it works! I know shock horror.

Don't make excuses to why you can't do it because excuse s are just fear of change.

Implement small changes a then build on them.

Excuse s are then irrelevant.

Do not divert from the plan..

If you change the plan you inadvertently change your goal

Then when it comes to deadline you wonder why your results are shit

It's because you didn't follow the plan my friend

An elementary 2+2=4 equation my dear Watson is what you were given to follow

But you went all E=Mc2 on me and now you are lost again searching for the "Magic pill"

It's a myth there is none!

LOOK here.....

*Set a goal

*Make a plan to achieve it and time frame to reach it within

*Implement it into your life in a way that is realistic

*Follow the plan for set amount of time
Be ruthless with it!

*Achieve the goal

It's not complicated, only you stop yourself and make it complicated.

Fergal "spoiler" Lawlor

Family members who comment on your weight

So it has happened to all of us before.

You are at a family get together or occasion where some members of your family whom you have not seen in a year or maybe more are at.

You have just bought some new clothes that you spent ages looking for online because the local shops are crap, overpriced and never have your sixe.

You know that you've put on a few pounds and this new outfit will mask it a bit better than whats in the wardrobe right now

So you arrive at the "Do" and you feel pretty good about yourself right now.

Then you bump into a distant relation who has not seen you in  a year or two.

The first fudging thing this opinionated 3rd removed muppet of a cousin has to say to you is.....

 "Oh look you have put on weight have you look at that belly"

That shit pisses me right off and all I could think about personally was
 "leg kick, right straight, spinning back-fist"

That basically means your using a walking stick for 3 months.

E hmm.., anyway that's illegal and uncalled for.

KINDA...

Remember they don't mean to be an asshole, it just comes naturally to them.

So does taking a shit as it happens..

Remember that you can lose the belly eventually my friend but they will still be an asshole by the next time you have a family do.

So don't take it personally.  If they feel better about themselves saying that to you, look at it as that you're doing them a favor, your boosting their confidence.

It's not a nice feeling at all, now you feel like that opinionated 3rd removed cousin is watching you.

So you eat like a rabbit at the family function which goes on for hours.

You say your goodbyes at the end of the night and smile at the  person who said it to you waiting for another comment that helps their ego and destroys yours.

You arrive home and sit up all night eating shit because your starving, where nobody can see you or judge your waistline.
 
All the questions filled with hurt and anger are running through your mind

"Who the hell are they anyway to say that shite to me?"

I bet they have never had a battle with their weight etc.

HERE is the KICKER<<<<<<

Do you think they are still thinking about what they said to YOU?

NOPE, they forgot the second they said it to you, unless you went with plan B "spinning backfist".

They will defo remember saying that to you and probably wont say it again, but...

it means you are reading this from a holding cell for grievous bodily harm.;)

See where the feeling of anger got you?

No where good anyway.

 Every time you allow a sentence or an act that somebody did to you in the past, you give them power to hurt you again

Even when they are not around you.

The only REASON that you became hurt is because you knew what they said to you was true.

You are IN CHARGE of what you feel, Say and do.  Dont let anyone take that away from you.

So do something about it.

Stick to your guns and you will get where you are going.


Fergal "spinning-backfist" Lawlor

Are You in Denial of Your Reality?

When the economy took a hit I decided I was off travelling the world to greener pastures

I left my business to a friend to look after my clients while I was away and they made a balls of it.

I arrived home 3 months later to see that the whole world was up shit creak and not just Ireland.

I had no car, no money and no clients.

I made a few phone calls and managed to get some of my loyal clients who had been with me prior to me leaving for my travels to come back and train with me again.

I managed to scrape together enough money to buy a shite box car with a leaky ceiling when it rained heavy.

To top it off I was also in debt that I could not pay as I was barely making enough money to pay for the weekly shop for my partner and I.

Thank God my partner had a job at the time as I remember not for as long as long as a week at a time and staying in bed all day feeling depressed and sorry for myself.

I made EXCUSES for why I was in my current reality instead of DOING something about it.


What Excuses do you  make?

What reality do you ignore?

Things came to a head when I had not got enough money one evening to bring my girlfriend and I to the cinema let alone a night out with dinner..

So I sucked it up and sought employment in a local gym.

 I was very intimidated being back in the work place again but at the same time it felt great to be back doing what I loved and I was making money again.

One year went by then another and I realised I had gone back to the start so the natural thing would be now to have another crack at going out on my own.

With great FEAR I handed in my notice and left two weeks later.

That was a year ago and I have gone from strength to strength in my personal and professional life.

BUT BUT BUT...

Right now I'm sitting in my car at the side of the road because I ignored the reality that my car might not make it all the way home because it needed Diesel.

My excuse?

I just didn't bother filling up my car even though it needed to be.

Lazy bastard syndrome I call it.

I will now be late collecting my lovely pizza I have at the weekend and it's going to be cold!!!

I learned my Lesson

When will you learn yourself?

Fergal AA Lawlor

The Red Pill or the Blue pill?

The Matrix, my favorite film of all time.

The reason I began training in the martial arts in fact.

I thought the training regime the actors went through for the movie was amazing.

The main character "Neo" is constantly searching for answers to what the Matrix really is.

He is so determined to find out what the Matrix is that he is contacted by a man who claims to have the answers to all of his questions.

He is told that he cannot really be told though, he can only shown what the Matrix is.

He is given an option.

"You take the blue pill—the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill—you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Remember: all I'm offering is the truth. Nothing more"

Taking the blue pill is like admitting  to yourself things are gone to shit and you still pretend you are fine because you are frightened of change.and feel safe where you are.

But your stuck in the Matrix then....

Taking the red pill means you admit things are shit and you are ready to change and want out of it.

Every day is a new adventure where nothing will ever be the same again and you never know what's next.

Life is a lot more exciting and fulfilling when you live it that way.

By the end of the Movie Neo discovers that he is "The one"

The saviour of his people in the real world and has unlimited power to help others who want out of the Matrix like he did.

Even though all throughout the Movie he doubts himself not believing that he has what it takes to be the hero.

In the end his own self believe is what quite literally brings him back from the dead after being shot numerous times by the baddies and he saves the day.

He changed his mindset and refused to lie down and die!

Are you stuck in the Matrix?

Do want to get out?

Are you waiting and hoping for someone to come rescue you?

I have News for you.

Nobody is coming to help you.

Help yourself. Be your own Neo

Your own saviour

Your own hero

You need to put the message out there like Neo did that you want something before you can begin your journey towards getting it.

So which will it be the blue pill or the red pill?

Fergal "The one?" Lawlor

Have you Ever been Told you're not good enough?

Has somebody ever said something that put you down so much it broke your self confidence?

Your belief in yourself?

I did...

When I was 5!

The most influential person I knew at 5 apart from my parents

My first teacher.

I remember it clearly it was such a shifty thing to say.

"Fergal you are stupid and you will never be able to do maths!"

Guess what.

I struggled all through school with maths.

So much so I was unable to tell the time on a watch until I was nearly 10 or 11

I struggled all through second level education

To this day I get nervous sometimes when I have to give a client change for a training session.

I should keep the change....:)

Then another person who was a teacher laughed at me when I told them I wanted to be a martial arts teacher and own my own fitness business.

Guess who that was..

My first Martial Arts teacher!

Another knock... From a very influencial role model.

Look at me now F@#&er!

What turned me around?

Somebody told me I was good enough

That I could do it

I could make it.

That I was a success.

Now I battled with my own self doubt and fear of failure.

This man is Professor George Canning

10th Dan Which is the highest honour a martial artist can have bestowed on him or her.

A founder of a martial arts system

An amazing teacher, mentor and friend

So next time somebody tells you you are not good enough.

Smile and feel sorry for them in the knowledge that you are In charge of what you do and when you do it.

They are afraid of change therefore they will never achieve anything worth mentioning.

They want to drag you down to their level of exsistance.

They won't succeed in infecting you with their jumpsuit fear tactics as long as you maintain in your mind with unshakeable faith the FACT that you will succeed.

Be strong, Push on despite the ne Sayers

They are cowards, pity them laughed at them.

There is no impossible.

Fergal "no limits" Lawlor





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I got ya!

If I had read that title I would be on here too so don't feel bad.

You thought you found a bargain right?

A cheap option that gets you something you would normally fork out €112,169 for!

You wanted it,  no you can't have it.

Why? Because you didn't earn it, you do deserve it but you must pay the price.

If you don't like that sentence you should now go and cry in a box of Oreo cookies snowflake.

In order to get you must be willing to give.

It can be time, money, energy you give as long as you give it your all!

Your return on investment will always pay of in dividence.

Give lazy infective efforts and guess what you get?

Sweet F@#% All

"I can't afford the time commitment..."

I say you can't afford not to commit time to yourself when it comes to your health!

That's the sacrifice and the fear element that stops you when you are pumped up to get cracking with a new program and all of a sudden you don't feel you will make it.

So It's easier not to invest in yourself because know you have absolutely no accountability to anyone which means no pain in the short term


What do you want?

So what will you give or give up for that want?

And for what do you want in return?

Find that out and you are on a winner

Now go get it.


Fergal Valentino Rossi